One of the constant mistakes people do is to fit tomorrow into a box of yesterday’s know-how. Truth be told, there is a huge contrast between our experiences and expectations. Whether it is in a business or relationships, the truth is that tomorrow keeps changing. We cannot step into tomorrow based on what happened 10 years ago.
A struggling businessman who is afraid to take any more chances because of the past financial losses; a girl with her time ticking, still running away, afraid of any relationships because of the past hurts. We hear it again and again. Additionally, many genuine relationships are broken because of doubting and mistrust. Comparing your husband or wife with someone else that hurt you before does not add to the solution at all. Just because a Judas Iscariot betrayed you does not mean that you go around distrusting everyone else.
Now, it is a fact that past experiences do help you get smarter but it also has the power to keep you from your future if you are not careful with it. So, gain your wisdom from your past but also remember to be open and trust God more than before with your future. Don’t let your past come into your mind or be remembered. Isaiah 65:17 “For behold, I create new heavens and a new earth; And the former things will not be remembered or come to mind.” How about entering our lives daily without specific assumptions about how things are going to turn out?
So, even if you were hurt by your first love, broken by your past abuse, failed by the ones you trusted the most, and so on and so forth – let us not live life by yesterday. Do not expect your current relationship to deliver those same things. Isaiah 43:18 says, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.” Suspend your presumptions, throw away those anxieties and just enjoy today, the day that the Lord has made.
How about you? Have those past memories overshadowed you? Let’s refocus.
