The Most Bitter Man!

Bitterness is one of life’s issues that everyone has to come face to face with at some given point in time unless you are reading this from the moon. The fact of the matter is that it is one of the most dangerous issues of life if it is not dealt with, with wisdom.

I have come across many bitter people but who could possibly be the most bitter man to ever walk the face of the earth? Whensomeone goes through circumstances like betrayal, rejection or hurt and holds on to it, it then turns into bitter feelings within them.

The most hurtful rejections in history are the rejections that were faced by the Son of the Living God. He was first rejected by His own creation and then rejected by His own Father on the cross. How much more humiliating could it be for the glorious Creator to be limitedin a perishable body. He left His throne to save the very people that would reject Him, rip His flesh off and then pierce Him again as He lay dying.

If Jesus was not the Son of God, then the bitter most man in this world would be JESUS! But He said, “Father, forgive them for they do not know what they do!” That very forgiveness ripped apart the heavenly places destroying demonic strongholds and the very roots of bitterness!

Yet sadly, today we allow the enemy to sow seeds of bitterness in our life, defiling our walk with God.

Product of Circumstance

The question we must ask ourselves is, are we molded by our circumstances? I know of a pastor who continued doubting every believer in Church because of one past hurtful experience from another believer. Soon, the church became a field for the enemy to sow doubt and mistrust.

When I was 14 years old, after a conference, I was told that I would not be able to preach at the next conference as the other seniorpastor was insecure with my preaching. As a teenager, I could not understand why the man that I looked up to then would behave that way. I remember calling my mother and weeping over the phone.

I still remember what my mom said, “Son, go and serve that man of God and pray that God will use him in the next meeting” Well, that was the beginning of burning the bitter roots.

To the Ministers of God

If you are a minister and have been hurt, do not go on through life perceiving everyone to be as Judas who may betray you in the future. Not only will you hurt the sheep that you have been called to lead but you will grow deeper into your insecurities, destroying the future of the call of God on your life. Let us allow Christ to live His life through us.

Truth is, my friend, that as long as you are on this planet, there is going to be that someone who may hurt you, intentionally or unintentionally. A special problem with bitterness is that it causes more trouble than it began with and defiles relationship. Those with this spirit will be seen frequently grumbling or complaining over seemingly small matters because of this spirit’s foothold that has not been dealt with.

Here’s what the Bible says

Ephesians 4:31 “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.”

Matthew 6:14, 15 “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

Symptoms of Bitterness

Some of the symptoms of bitterness are, resentment (continuous hard feelings against someone.), racism, intense hatred, revengeful,continual grumbling, presumptuousness (over-assumption, doubting, taking everything in a negative manner leading to slander or even character assaulting).

Dealing with Bitterness

Hebrews 12: 15, says, “See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” As long as we are tied down to bitterness in our hearts, we will not be able to move in the true calling that God has for us.

As you read this, I encourage you to try and find out the areas that have caused you to become bitter and pursue those areas with the love of Christ. Romans 5: 5 says, “And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.” Ask the Holy Spirit to pour out His love into those areas that you are struggling because He desires to see you grow into Christ who is our head.

Let’s deal with bitterness with a forgiving heart of Jesus that destroyed the foundations of hell and opened the heavens!

Have you had any similar experiences? Do let us know on how God set you free, by leaving a message below.

 

Is there anyone that you pray and share this with?
  • Elina

    ohhhhhhh how i missed ur blogs!! im so happy to read ;)

  • http://www.mathewsnuggets.blogspot.com Binsu Robinson

    Powerful and Provoking !

    Bless You Shyju.. a Healthy Reminder .

  • andrea

    This article came timely when I was in bitterness.

    I almost jumped over the balcony in my room last night. I was staring at the balcony from my bed and crying and wailing. At first, my mind was on the sharp scissor in my cabinet, then my attention shifted to the balcomy. The image of a man jumping over and down, the image that I've seen over the internet kept playing in my mind. I felt hopeless. I felt angry. Sabove all, I was consumed by hatred and anger. The only thing kept me from jumping is the image of my sister. She told me she needs me.

    I have been through few bad relationsips, in which one of them were abusive. As I thought I had got rid of the bitterness, I involve myself in another sinful relationship, based solely on lust. Everything went downward for me ever since.

    The I discover I haven't been healed at all.

    You blog came in time.

    • Elina

      ur testimony blew my mind!! see how much Jesus loves u!!
      GBU!

  • Chris Oh

    Hi all,
    its a very relavant topic in today's context especially. More advance tech, advance schemes, advance relational , in business, corporate, community, church and society, this topic is inevitably necessary.

    perhaps anyone can states how we can walk our daily christian life naturally, without being too conscious of worry being hurt, and getting bitter, while we allow God to help and dealt with our hearts and intentions.

    So we can grow mature but not old, instead fresh and passionate daily to love God and people around us!
    yeah!

    Good day everyone! Blessed week! :) Chris (Malaysia)

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/johnkenny johnkenny

    Brilliant post…iam from vizag shyju…waiting for the meetings here..thanx for the post…

  • anu

    this spoke to me directly…a straight hit..i admit the fact and ask the Lord right now for His fullness of love to fill me in every situation.feel so relieved.than q bro..God bless..

  • gina leong

    Wow! what a timing to have read this message as it inter-related to what we are going through at moment. The stronger we are in the Lord thats when the devil will find all ways to intrude, for our case initially was our children ( wish we are glad able to overcome) and now over our business.

    All I can say is Bro Shyju, with our strength, it will not be easy to overcome but only can place our hope and trust in God. We are glad that we are not easily shaken as the Holy Spirit dwells in us.
    Truly need prayers in areas of our business especially in this economy down turn, competitors are
    gaining victories by winning over most of our customers. We would accept if we were given a chance to
    compete but not when dirty tactics being used and one of the worst but truly existing is bribery.
    And we lose to the worldy just because we choose to abide in gods way. I can elaborate very clearly what perseverence means with the rest of our Bro and Sis in Christ who are going thru the same circumstances in dealing with the business world. My husband and I will continue to pray for God's intervention in areas of our financial life by opening doors of opportunity even if we have to change to a total different job. God Helps us. As long as we are still physically strong, mentally stable, we should find no reason to win the race of life. With God, We can do all things! Amen!

  • Maria

    nice post….
    GOD BLESS U SHYJU…

  • Priscilla

    Bless you for sharing this Word of God & testimony. God has blessed you to be a blessing. It is the truth. We & many more should, must practice it to be triumphant and victorious on this journey.

  • B.Charles

    Really a powerful message bro!

  • isha

    Super…! man of God…VERY HELPFUL very informative and quite detailed.Be thou blessed and HIS Glory seen in your life!!

  • JESSY

    thanks pastor..awesome msg ..GOD BLESS

  • mamta

    Great!! Good msg Specially Symptoms of Bitterness
    Some of the symptoms of bitterness are, resentment (continuous hard feelings against someone.), racism, intense hatred, revengeful,continual grumbling, presumptuousness (over-assumption, doubting, taking everything in a negative manner leading to slander or even character assaulting). I was not sure of these symptoms and that all these symptoms fall in bitterness. I use to think bitterness mean being bitter about something I was not aware that it had so many symptoms. Thank u so much to explain things in detail ..God bless u … i was blessed by reading this.. thank you so much..

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      you are right… thanks for sharing..

  • Shyju

    Wow good thoughs sister. Let us ask Holy Spirit to renew us!

  • Glory

    thank u for for this i was going through that. i am sorry for that i wil start blessing them

    • http://shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju

      good to know… God bless u..

  • Anonymous

    Y the devil does not want u to forgive? Cos bitter roots bear bitter fruits! Let go & soar!

  • Neeru

    ptl wow! this blog touched my heart nd helped m 2 deal wid bitterness in abetter way. GOD BLESS U ND USE U BOTH MIGHTLY 4 HIS KINGDOM ND HIS GLORY,   

    • QRI_Musings

      What a mighty God we serve! Continue in His freedom. The Lord be with you!