Dealing With Rejection

May 6, 2010 in Encouragement, Relationships with 40 Comments

 

We began dealing with, “The most bitter man” in the last post. (If you missed it, you can find it here.) There are many weapons that the enemy uses to bring bitterness into one’s life and one of the most difficult roots of bitterness is the one that takes form through rejection.

 

There is something so ugly about rejection that takes a lot out of a person; to feel unwanted is a terrible feeling. Most of the cases, it really takes God to heal a rejected heart. Even though many may pretend to have overcome, signs of that rejection are seen in the way they treat others around them.

I heard this illustration; it is when the stomach rejects the food that we throw up. And the food rejected by the body stinks immediately. There is a foul smell that is associated with rejection that troubles the mind. The thought that you don’t measure up is a very hurtful one.

Seeing It How God Sees

We must train ourselves to see through God’s perspective. Every time you go through something, be quick to see how God is looking at you. He is your Father. He understands your rejection more than anyone else. If God is on your side no matter who rejects you, God has accepted you.
One day, the Holy Spirit reminded me of how I should handle the praise of people carefully. Because the truth is that if the praise of the people matter to you then their rejection will highly matter to you. People on a good day will sing, ‘Hosanna’ and another day shout, ‘Crucify Him!’. Train yourself to thank God for the acceptance from people, that way you will be secure in God even when rejection comes.

 

Release to Be Released

How can we ever forget that humans are human and that humans do err! If they do not want to accept you, you are then forced to move on but that is not the end of your world. BECAUSE, it is only over when God says it is over! So, I’d rather be the one with a lighter heart and a face that smiles in knowing I’m accepted by God! So, let us choose to love as Christ chooses to love even them that rejected HIM. Romans 15: 7 says, “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” Does your life bring praise to God?
One of the alarming verse in the Bible is from Matthew 6: 15, “But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”. My friend, the greatest citizen on this planet is the citizen of heaven because he is accepted by God! One moral we can surely learn from all throughout the Bible is that to be rejected by man is to be accepted by God. It was the rejection of Christ that made him the cornerstone. Mark 12: 10 “Have you not read this Scripture:

“The stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone;”

So, release today and be released into your destiny in God.

 

What’s your thought? What has helped you find the release in God? Share with us below.

 

 

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  • http://www.abhamb.com Abha

    Only God's acceptance matters now… God's perfection vis a vis human imperfection….God…you win hands down :-)

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      lol. amen!!

  • Prathiba

    Very timely msg, thank u Holy spirit, u r simply awesome..U knw what we need before we ask!!
    Thank u so much Bro Shyju for allowing God to move through you! The creation waits in eager expectation for the sons of God to be revealed..

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Praise God, I love that verse, creation waits in eager expectation for the sons of God to be revealed..

  • Yasmin Shullai

    I've been truly blessed by this post. It ls surprising to see and know that even the most popular people go thru this at one time or another, . It is very very very difficult to deal with this and many will advise you and say you gotta accept it and move on ……..Easier said than done . But knowing Jesus changes everything , though the rejection remains, He is with you through it and somehow ,………..it starts to get better as He begins to take it away . With it He takes away even the by products like anger hate bitterness etc. and replaces it with His love and His peace "which surpasses ALL understanding. "

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      i agree amen.. surpassing peace of God is the best!

  • http://www.mathewsnuggets.blogspot.com Binsu Robinson

    Yes I like that word.. Release your Past and be Released into your Destiny :) NICE ARTICLE !

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Praise God!

  • http://www.jesusisthewinner.blogspot.com christy

    Yes,bro…Its true.Rejection from man shudnt matter,cz we r choosen by JESUS!! HIS unfailing luv n abundant grace surrounds us,no matter wat!!! GOD BLESS U!!!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      hallelujah :)

  • seena

    so true if the praise matters , rejection matters too.. let us al becum a cornerstone.
    Praise God!!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      lol amen amen :)

  • binoy

    Thanx for this message.. it means a lot to me…plz pray for me- binoy

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      Prayers for u brother, Blessings.

      • binoy

        Thankyou, God bless u too..

  • Jenny

    awesome dear ,it spoke to me ………..praise God for this ……

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      I am glad. thank u Jesus!

  • Elina

    Awesome point —"""""if the praise of the people matter to you then their rejection will highly matter to you"""

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      amen amen

  • Rose

    Amenn!!! Being accepted by the world means nothing if you are not accepted by God.
    Lets all look to pleasing God and not men cause at the end, its Him that is always by our side when hard times come and good times come
    God Bless :)

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

      I agree Rose. amen.

  • Pranjali

    Hello shyju,
    again the same thing happened , you just write everything dats happenin wid me………i am so thankful to god that he is speaking to me through you. actually i love a guy from my church, and he is the pastor's son. he also loves me, and we were like thinking about marriage . but when pastor uncle and his wife came to knoe bout it, they rejected me , found a lot of faults……….most of them on the spiritual front. all i know is dat i was a sinner and it was after coming to this church i really met christ my lord and am growing each day in him. i have it in my heart dat i am made for doing gods work, i dont knoe from where it has come , i did not have any visions abou it. but their rejection makes me sad, and yes i even stumbled over my relationship with god because of it. what should i do ? are they ri8?……………please dont post this on the site, but please do help me

    • lady cliche

      I came across this blog because I wanted to know how the Holy Spirit – Jesus deal with rejection. I have been rejected by many who I love dearly. I became ill and almost instantaneously and simultaneously I got rejected. I never treated even my enemy this way. The people consist of long time friends-Christians non Christians and family members. I dealt with it for many years. I tried to be strong about it– by continuing to show love and treating them how I wanted to be treated.

      • lady cliche

        Nevertheless, I became severely depressed and recently I behaved in a very horrible way. I rejected someone who grieved my spirit the last time I had an encounter with them. I was sorry. I apologized. Nevertheless, their pain caused them to avoid me even after an apology. Rejection can cause one to behave unsmilingly harsh as Shyju stated, even if it’s not their usual way of conducting themselves. We have to take the pain of rejection to God and when we know how he dealt with it we can do as he did. Never reject anyone. Move on to those who are accepting. Never stop loving and praying for those who rejected you. It’s sometimes hard to do. However, it is a healthy thing to do. Some scriptures that may be helpful, John 1:11, 12, Mark 6: 1-6, Gen 6:3, and Isaiah 53:3. Thanks for the encouragement shyju. Pranjali, and to all who are struggling with this. Be encouraged. We are living in the last days and the enemy uses rejection to stop the works of God. Continue to do good and make every occasions to find a place of acceptance first by our Heavenly Father and then others. Be Good & Bllessed”.

        • http://intensedebate.com/people/Shyju Shyju

          Thanks for sharing your heart with us. God bless you to bless others. Shyju.

  • sindhu

    'm totally blessed!it was just this afternoon the HolySpirit spoke at humans bein human and to see that on ur post is a gr8 joy bro:) i love that saying-it's over only wen God says it's over! wat more joy can there be than bein accepted by the MostHigh?? God bless u..glory to God

  • Susan

    I heard you once in dubai and when you preached the power of God is awesome. I cannot forget the anointing in your message. I am so blessed with what you are sharing here. Rejection from men really hurts but thanks be to God that He is always there loving and accepting and healing us from all those pain we are encountering in life. Thank you Jesus!

  • Nitya

    facing the rejection is terrible thing.. the thoughts keep haunting. I have tried hard on my own and m tired to get the thoughts out of my mind. However i am sure god is working on this part of my life as I am blessed by the posted message above. Its true that in such situation we sing to god to save us or we insensibly reject him. thank you for posting it Shyju! I love to read your post.

  • Abel

    I was touched by this message..
    I shared this message to my friends also..
    thank you..

  • http://skingsly.blogspot.com/ Kingsly

    Very True!! God sees us Hidden in Christ!! So we are So precious and always accepted…Thanks for writing…

  • britt

    i came with two and a half hear to my christian parents, last year my soul got healed in one moment from the rejection of my earliest childhood. It was a miracle and i can see the world and everything in a trustful way. Rejection really can change the mind of man and god has to heal it! I know how much rejection hurts, and i can feel with those they still suffer and i can encourage them to hold on on god… God bless u for ur wisdom and seaking god in all matters.

  • Jherrel

    Suffered with this alot and this is what I gathered on this particular spirit. Please feel free to take note from my notes Shyju. :)

    REJECTION

    When God created mankind, He created both male and female in His image. I believe that one of the things that makes man like God is the inherent desire to be recognized, valued, accepted and appreciated. Rejection undermines that natural, God-given characteristic that predisposes each one of us with the desire to be loved, cherishedm appreciated not for what we do, have, or attain, but just for being an individual who has been fearfully and wonderfully made. Rejection is one of the ways the enemy undermines self-worth, self-esteem, self-image, purpose and potential. Rejection comes in two basic forms: covert and overt. Covert can be characterised by someone saying they love and support you but never showing it. Overt is more obvious. It comprises verbal, physical or social ostracizing, isolation, discrimination, and segregation. Rejection from others often leads to the rejection of self, which produces feelings of worthlessness and inferiority, depression, emotional isolation, introsepection, perfectionism, irreponsibility, guilt and self hatred. People who have lived under constant rejection eventually have a difficult time expressing feelings, asserting himself/herself, or taking control of his/her life. Rejected people reject as a result of an aquired defense mechanism. (See Mark 8:31; 12:10.)

    REJECTION COUNTERATTACK

    Ask God to show you your true worth in Him. Do not seek affirmation from others at the expense of the affirmation that God gives you. See yourself as God sees you. "To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved." (Eph 1:6)

    Hope this helps any lost soul who comes on this website seeking help/advice.

    Kingdom Blessings

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      Thats good. Thanks.

  • Brindah

    I learnt something new today. No matter how many people turn against you, hate you and you get rejected in the world, don't worry because Jesus loves you and has accepted you. In my situation, people just hate me for who I am, just because I get hyper sometimes, or sometimes cuz of the way I look (first impressions) and they judge me, accuse me, and I alwayss asked myself, why God, what have i ever done wrong. But after today, I know God has accepted me and he loves me with all his heart. And his love is all I need. All this time, ive cried and went through a small upset mode, but now, im happy because I know Jesus Loves Me.

    Thank You. :)

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      Simple trick that I try to hold on to. Don’t let praises of people matter, cos if it does then their rejection will matter too. Blessings.

  • sweety

    awesome blog. every time i go th'gh ur blog i feel God's touch, i hear his voice. i feel being comforted. now i 've made it a practice to go th'gh atleast an article b4 i go to bed. tanq bro. may God use u more n more n pls do remember me in ur prayers pls coz my heart is like a thorny place whenever i hear frm God i get so excited n if its a command to b obeyed i promise Him to keep up His words but i've never kept my words(i am girl involved in ministry). pls do pray me bro. i've not been so b4. He was my everythin but now its not so. i want to b as i was. i simply luv my 'J', i nw my acts scornsHim it adds to my pain. pls pray tat i shld get th'gh my test

  • Info2ami

    nice ,,i hav faith in u god,,but i dnt have any solution of the problm frm wich m surfing..
    i juz dnt knw wat u want me to learn frm dis tym..getng away frm all or being wid all evn if tey said bad 2 me…love is big or selfrespct..i need bth ,,bth are essential for livng..oh plz help me dear god…

    • Anonymous

      Prayers!

  • Suganthy_sharon

    i strongly believe that this post is a wonderful help to everyone.. thanks brother

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com Shyju Mathew

      Most welcome sis.