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[French Translation] [Spanish Translation] The topic of homosexuality has not been an easy subject to deal with in the church with passion, religion and riotous words being hurled in.

Someone trying to understand homosexuality must also first see into their belief structure. What the Bible says will not have any effect if you do not understand the structure of how we are created and why we are created for. Our generation is clearly fuelled by certain thoughts that need to be first clarified. The idea that these are natural desires and were made by God and therefore God does not condemn them is one of the foremost deceptions in understanding this truth. This perversion of man’s nature is further fuelled by man’s arrogance that they are not answerable to anyone and therefore do not have to explain themselves to God or anyone else. Both of these thoughts come from the nature of man to rebel against God. Rebellion is in the very nature of man.

So to understand what we are really created for, we must start with acknowledging that we are not ours own but we belong to Jesus and then go back to the beginning to the book of Genesis. God created us there as man and women – a union blessed by God. It was in that garden the serpent deceived Eve by tempting her with the forbidden fruit.

Bible teaches that all people are born with a desire towards sin. The fall of man to sin in the beginning causes us to have those desires that are not from God, including the perversion of sexual orientation than what God originally designed.

The Position of the Church

People tend to go off tangent with their accusations that the gay people are singled out and judged. It’s a shame that any believer of Jesus or for anyone else for that matter would mock or look down on another human for any sins for that matter. Yet to differ is not to hate. God hates sin but loves the sinner. Christians may have singled out this issue more than any other sins due to the attention it has received but the Bible does not.

The Position of the Bible

Bible treats this sin as any other sin. The teenager having sex before marriage and the unmarried couple living in a live-in relationship, any other sexual activity outside of the covenant of marriage of a husband and wife or even to lust after someone in our mind; Bible calls all of them under the same banner – SIN.

The Freedom

Most people with same-sex desires believe they were born with these tendencies. Some married men may be attracted to multiple women. That does not mean they are born that way so should identify themselves and be as polygamists. So the change begins in your thought world.

There is no hurt, abuse, distortions of any kind that the devil has invented that the power of Jesus cannot transform.

And that very reason is why Jesus came to die for us. To help us in what we could not help ourselves. Jesus died to save us from all our sins. Because Jesus died for us, we owe Him all of ourselves. He then becomes our Lord and Saviour bringing all our actions (including our sexual lives) under His authority and reign.

The starting point of change is to first accept your situation as any other sin that requires God’s grace to overcome. To deny or minimize your struggle is never a solution. In repenting, the Lord will give you the grace required to overcome the sin. Like any other sin, this will require you to flee from it and replace the pursuit of sin with the pursuit of God. And the fellowship of those that call upon the name of the Lord with a pure heart will continue to bring total healing and freedom to the sinful condition of your heart.

Simply remember, the secret of the standing man is that he got back up from where he last fell. Keep getting back up and running the race – His grace is enough.

Resources:

- Further Reading:

At the Intersection of Religious and Sexual identities: A Christian Perspective on Homosexuality (PDF)

- A Christian Psychology of and Response to Homosexuality

What should you say to your friend or your son or your daughter if they come to you and say, “I think I’m gay”? How did their sexual compass get so offset? Can they change, and if so, what type of change can be expected, even hoped for? How will you counsel and minister to them?

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[Click here to download the PDF]

Question: What are your thoughts on the issue? Have you got an opportunity to minister to someone with the stronghold of homosexuality? Or perhaps have you struggled in this and got ministered biblically by others?

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  • Joe Bonnette

    “Some married men may be attracted to multiple women. That does not mean they are born that way”. Yes it does. Human being are biologically designed to not be monogamous. Everything about our reproductive organs speaks to a biological design for multi-male multi-female mating groups. That and the fact that 85% of societies in the world today at least allow, and at most show a preference for polygamy/polyamory, and that historically societies that put a preference on monogamy are in the vast minority and only showed up in the last thousand or so years with any prevalence, and yes men we’re born to desire sex with more than one woman, and women were similarly designed.

    • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

      But thats what Bible is trying to say it’s a SIN. I heard testimonies i which many Gays who started believing in God left their old SINFUL lives behind. That is da power of GOD. When u start believing things turn out to be easy n POSSIBLE.

      • Joe

        Except the bible never states that polygamy is a sin. Unless you like to think God likes to promote sin, like he did when he gave all those wives to David, or allowed Moses, Abraham, Jacob, Ezekiel, and many others have multiple wives.

        • sheba gopal

          Dear brother JOE please read malachi 2: 15 which says,” Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his.And why one? Because he was seeking Godly offspring.So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth”. So it implies that, if you marry many wives, you will give birth to an ungodly offspring.
          World calls it polygamy; God says it is adultery.

          God didnt advice those old testament saints to take many wives..Just because they took many wives,it doesn’t mean that God allowed it.As brother Shyju said, only Holy spirit can make you understand this.May the holy spirit, open your spiritual eyes to understand this.

          • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

            Thankyou so much for sharing. :)

            • sheba gopal

              You are welcome

          • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

            Thank you sister so much for sharing. :)

          • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

            Thank you so much for sharing. :) I guess i never would have explained this good. :)

        • kimkumar

          Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Heb 13:4

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Actually u have a point because its in the fallen nature of man to sin and not be committed and crave for unnatural ways but my point is u were not created by God for that. Proof is today’s divorce rates but that still does NOT make it any right.

      • Joe

        My argument was more that, if you believe that God designed us, biologically, which nearly all Christians do, then God designed us specifically for non-monogamous mating system. Our biology speaks to exactly that. This isn’t about our sinful nature, it is about how our physical, God-designed bodies are built. Add to that the fact that God himself instituted and supported numerous polygamists, 40 that we know of in the old testament, and likely many more that we didn’t know about, and it is clear that when it says a man shall leave his parents and join with his wife, it was not intended that wife always be a singular term.

        • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

          Man – men
          Wife – wives
          Remember? :)

          When God created, He created man in His image and that point he had just one wife. The sinful nature that later on crept in caused man to have desires to please his carnal nature.
          From the establishment of lifelong covenantal marriage bonds in the Garden of Eden (Gen. 2:18-25) to the “mystery” now disclosed through Christ, marriage is to picture Christ’s love for His bride, His people, the church (Eph. 5:22-33).
          God intends marriage between one man and one woman to display the exclusive covenantal love He has for His bride- the church, one body.
          Apostle Paul reconfirms, to be above reproach, an elder must be ‘the husband of one wife.’
          If u still find it hard to understand, simply open your heart and ask the Holy Spirit to explain it to u. And He will.

          • Joe

            I understand that you hold onto a cultural expectation and biblical ideology that was created in the 1100′s by the catholic church. But the fact is, the bible never speaks against polygamy, or shows it in a bad light, god never condemns anyone for merely having more than one wife, and defends Moses when his sister speaks against him taking a second wife, and gives David at least some of the wives he amassed. God either intended for us to be non-monogamous (again both men and women), in the context of group marital families, or He made a mistake in his biological design of us. If He meant for us to be monogamous, why did He build our reproductive organs specifically for multi-male multi-female mating groups?

            • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

              U r wrong again. I don’t hold to cultural expectation. Or biblical theology created by catholic church. I hold to what the bible says and that settles it.
              I already explained to what God created and what sin caused.

              No point saying it again brother. Arguing for the saje of arguing doesnt help. Like I said before ask the Holy Spirit to reveal Himself to u if u really want to know. Thanks for dropping in. God bless.

          • Joe

            Oh and the phrase husband of one wife, that Paul states. In the Greek the term for one can, and regularly does, mean first. Paul could just as easily have said husband of first wife.

            • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

              That is assumption

  • http://twitter.com/ufff_yaar ★Indu★ (✿Bonnie✿)♪

    Awesome post. I think our generation is blinded by all kind of sins n this is da major talk of da day. Hence it is important to understand n believe what bible has to say to us. Simply hearing it won’t help anyone. UNDERSTANDING n BELIEVING is the solution to this problem.

  • Jisha

    A very good post brother. But how many of us r ready to share this message to a homosexual?. During our training days in msw degree I was placed for training a month in a organization in Kerala which fights for the rights of people who are lesbians, gays and transgender ie LGT .I went with the attitude that this is a place of big sin and this is a big task. But the case studies that I recorded there was shocking.Many developed this as sexual orientation. I cried when a gay boy told me he was abused when he was 4 years old by a relative and long 10 yrs of abuse had made him addicted to that pleasure. He cried over how his parents sent him out of his house and how miserable he feels he is..There were lesbian girls who due to soul ties developed same sex attraction. There were transgender whose sexual identity was a question to them. Many of the transgender who are born with hormonal and chromosomal abnormalities they are pushed to sexwork jesus taught me never look at them again with contempt.
    But how many of them know the real saving knowledge of Christ. They know Hindu gods and koothandavar who say they r the last birth before attaining moksha. Who is going to bring the gospel to all of these? We Christians pick the stone first. These people r many times busy fighting for survival that they become psychologically aggressive preventing us to go near. Each of us we have to stand in the gap for this group, we r busy discussing obama’s move to legalize straight marriages but how many of us are ready to pray for these LGT.We have to start praying since Satan is rising agencies that lead these people to deception that homosexuality is just another orientation and there is no need to feel guilty of. INTERCESSION is must for breaking this.
    Really we can’t free them from homosexuality until we stop seeing them as social outcast and tell what Jesus did for them.

    • http://www.pastorpriji.com Priji

      That is very true, intercession is must and required as much as reaching out to them with compassion is necessary. Its very true that abuse and soul ties are one of the reasons for this. And needs to be dealt with to get over it. Thank you for sharing! Bless you

  • http://www.diggingtheword.blogspot.com/ Rick Morgan

    sin is sin, it doesn’t matter which one we choose, they all “fall short of the glory of God”

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      On the dot bro. Thanks for sharing!

  • Angelo Pereira

    @shyju:disqus
    Thanks so much for addressing this topic and for all the insight you have provided…

    At the moment I am councelling a young man who is openly gay. I face a challenge in ministering to him as he himself is confused over the stance of the Gay Churches of USA and their teachings. Could you please provide us with some insight on how to deal with these issues?

    • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

      Walk with him bro. Nothing else can do. Prayerfully walk along, gently taking him one step at a time. Let him see Jesus through u.

      • Angelo Pereira

        Many thanks for your guidance. This is actually what I have been doing as I feel the Lord leading me to do just this. To walk with him and to invite him to the Lords presence where Jesus himself can minister to him and reveal the way he should live…
        I faced much critism from other Straight Christians who called me a sinner for associating with this youth and for not calling him a sinner and confronting him. But once again you have strengthened me to keep going! Thanks!!! Thanks, thanks thanks!!!

  • Ajith Varughese

    It is the Holy Spirit’s job to convict, God’s job to judge, and it’s my job to love.
    John 2:5 – Do whatever he tells you.

  • http://www.shyjumathew.com/blog Shyju Mathew

    Great!